Here is an excerpt from the 377 page LCG Pastor's manual amalgamated by Rod McNair. This is from the "Pastoral Ethics" section:
A Pastor Must Be Self-Controlled—Not Quick To Get Angry
“…A bishop then must be… not violent…but gentle, not quarrelsome…” (1 Timothy 3:2-3)
Pastors sometimes have to deal with frustrating and exasperating situations. A Pastor must have the character—and LOVE for others—to control his own spirit, even in the midst of difficult situations, and even with people who are irrational or belligerent. In Paul’s second letter to Timothy, he said:
2 Timothy 2:24-26 “And a servant of the Lord must not quarrel but be gentle to all, able to teach, patient, in humility correcting those who are in opposition, if God perhaps will grant them repentance, so that they may know the truth, and that they may come to their senses and escape the snare of the devil, having been taken captive by him to do his will.”
When a problem arises, imagine that you are arriving at the scene of a fire. The fire is the problem you are facing. Imagine that you have two buckets in your hands—one is filled with water, and the other is filled with gasoline. Which one you use upon arriving at the scene has a lot to do with the outcome of the situation. Can you defuse the situation by using a calm but firm hand? Or do you react with anger in kind, further exacerbating an already bad situation?
A Pastor must exhibit emotional control to successfully function in his capacity. He must be able to bear insult without retaliation. Jesus set that example. He did not lash out or take revenge on those who ridiculed Him. As Peter wrote:
1 Peter 2:21-25 “For to this you were called, because Christ also suffered for us, leaving us an example, that you should follow His steps: ‘Who committed no sin, nor was deceit found in His mouth’; who, when He was reviled, did not revile in return; when He suffered, He did not threaten, but committed Himself to Him who judges righteously; who Himself bore our sins in His own body on the tree, that we, having died to sins, might live for righteousness--by whose stripes you were healed. For you were like sheep going astray, but have now returned to the Shepherd and Overseer of your souls.”
This does not mean that a Pastor must not defend the members or the office of the ministry or must not occasionally act with decisive action. But he must keep his own personal feelings out of it, as much as possible, with God’s help. He must not fall into a “siege mentality” where he begins to see everyone as either for him or against him. He must strive to minimize controversy and polarization wherever possible. He must deal squarely and decisively on the facts, based on sound biblical principles, with all due patience and long-suffering and without personal antagonism or anger.
This takes careful self-examination of motives and intentions. It takes deep reflection to examine one’s own personal motives—and the humility to admit to oneself when one is acting on pride Proverbs 16:32 “He who is slow to anger is better than the mighty, and he who rules his spirit than he who takes a city.” Proverbs 14:29 “He who is slow to wrath has great understanding, but he who is impulsive exalts folly.” Proverbs 15:1 “A soft answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger.” pg 1-4, 1-5
Every single thing that is highlighted above is exactly what the LCG is NOT doing at this present moment. Rod Meredith and others have lashed out in anger at the Scarborough's and other members that see major issues breaking the church apart. They retaliate by publicly embarrassing and maligning church members characters and motives on a regular basis.
Rod Meredith and other LCG leaders have always used "personal feelings" when lashing out at certain people. Meredith is well know for carrying long held grudges against others.
The LCG and most other COG's have always employed the "siege mentality" when issues arise. The wagons are circled and disfellowshipments and markings fly like bullets. Its like they massacre as swiftly and as many as possible right off the bat so that the members cower in fear. Just look at the Church of God history from the time Herbert Armstrong started the church to this very day. From the time Armstrong stabbed the Church of God 7th Day in the back and apostatized, to this very day where we have 700 some splinter groups that are constantly circling the wagons to preserve their life styles and personal interpretations.
"...with all due patience and long-suffering and without personal antagonism or anger." What a glorious fantasy! Will we ever see that day happen in the Church of God movement?