Herbert Armstrong's Tangled Web of Corrupt Leaders

Friday, January 14, 2011

"You tell your husband I have no empathy for him."


This interesting exchange took place on MySpace.  Pay attention to the comments in green.

UCG/WCG/Tkach Jr.

Rainbow Poetess:
thank you for sharing so much

if they do not believe in a trinity, then how is it that they believe Jesus is eternal?

what changes in doctrine happened after Armstrong's death?
From their web site, they state the following:

First of all I believe it is important to state what the United Church of God teaches regarding this subject.
The
United Church of God teaches that God is a family. At the present time
there are two eternally living beings in that God family - the One we
call the Father, and the One we call Jesus Christ. Both are separate and
individual ever living Beings and from them everything exists and is
sustained.

On the surface that seems to be an accurate account of what the church teaches.  There is a pamphlet that the church offers called "Jesus Christ: The Real Story" that you can read at:  http://ucg.org.au/?library/booklets/jesus-christ-the-real-story.  It goes into greater detail of what it teaches.

 The moto when I was a member was "We are family".  This had deep meaning.  When Mr. Armstrong was alive it actually meant something.  We helped the world wide family members in any way that we could.   ~ But then... well it was during the doctrinal changes Joseph W. Tkach Sr started making that my husband was found to be terminal with liver failure and needed a liver transplant. 

I contacted "Headquarters"  to ask if a small prayer request could be put in the  world wide newsletter of the church.  The local minister contacted me via phone and absolutely tore me apart for making that request.  He told me that we did not deserve any help whatsoever, and that we sure didn't qualify for 3rd tithe assistance.  The strange thing was that I did not ask for third tithe assistance.  His phone call ate and ate on me for a number of reasons.  One) Why did this local minister think he had the right to speak to me in such a hurtful way?  Two) What happened to the "We Are Family" way of living?  It hurt me so deeply ~ to be treated so callously during a time of great hardship. 

And so ~ after 6 months of pondering I made a call to Headquarters... I needed some answers.  First I talked to a person that held no clout but really was a greeter.  I was a hand full (apparently) and was put on hold.. for 45 minutes I was on hold but had my jaw set and was not going to hang up until I got some answers.  Finally a man said "This is Joseph Tkach Junior.. you have some questions".   We talked for over an hour and a half and what he said blew me away... and not in a good way.  That one phone call ripped me away from the church.  The illusion was destroyed with no doubt left.

He said... there are a lot of people who need help world wide.  There is a baby that needs brain surgery or it will die and many other people that need prayer requests and we cannot help them ~ why should we put your prayer request in the newsletter?    I said... aren't we all a part of a world wide family of God and isn't that what family does.. help each other and pray for each other?  He then told me that I have no right to say what the church should or should not do. Oh... I thought. 

Yet that same church wanted me to continue to send in my tithes.. 1/3rd of my monthly income (that year) was to go for widows and people in need of help.  In total I was sending the church over $1,000.00 a month.  This quit immediately.  I used that money to pay for medical bills.    And so this was one of the changes that occurred after Mr. Armstrong died.  The very "heart" of the church had changed.  In total it took two and a half years for me to totally leave the church.  It was after I (we as a family) left the church that my husbands liver transplant happened... only two weeks after we made that decision.

Doctrinally some of  the changes were as follows.  I quote from a web site so that I am totally accurate:

...the church's three-tithe system was abolished, and it was suggested that
tithes could be calculated on net, rather than gross, income.

On January 16, 1986, Herbert Armstrong died in Pasadena, California. Shortly before his death, Armstrong named Joseph W. Tkach Sr. to succeed him as leader of the church.

As early as 1988, Joseph W. Tkach Sr. began to make doctrinal
changes. Doctrinal revisions were made quietly and slowly at first, but
then openly and radically in January 1995. They were presented as "new
understandings" of Christmas and Easter,[12] Babylon and the harlot,[13] Anglo-Israelism,[14] Saturday Sabbath,[15] and other doctrines.

In general, Tkach Sr. directed the church theology towards mainstream evangelical
Christian belief. This caused much disillusionment among the membership
and another rise of splinter groups. During the tenure of Joseph Tkach
Sr., the church's membership declined by about 50 percent. His son,
Joseph Tkach Jr., succeeded him after his death in 1995.

Eventually all of Herbert Armstrong's writings were withdrawn from
print by the Worldwide Church of God. In the 2004 video production Called To Be Free, Greg Albrecht, former dean of WCG's Ambassador College, declared Herbert Armstrong to be both a false prophet (though Armstrong himself did not claim to be a prophet) and a heretic.[16]

Eventually a great rift occurred.  Multiple splinter groups were formed.  I have not returned to any of them... nor any church for that matter.  One absolute fact is...  power absolutely corrupts ~ when left in the hands of man-kind.  I am one ~ not so unique who left the church never to return to any kind of organized religion.

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Rainbow Poetess:
i cannot imagine the hurt and confusion caused by such terrible circumstances

but i can so totally sympathise with the feeling of dejection as the realisation of what the church and family that you loved was starting to become - the antithesis of all it had been

i am also "churchless" as such

i have a clear view of my own doctrine [most of it] and a clear view of how i should be living etc, but i have no "home" [churchwise] 

i was starting to look at various, as you may tell by my new threads, before the flood happened, but these floods have taken my attention away from my own spiritual journey and i am feeling that maybe i was being too "obsessed" by trying to find "a spiritual family" and that i just need to get on with living and being a good example for my children
It was hard Rainbow.  The church had been my family for over 20 years.  The last day I attended I just looked around at everyone who had been close to me and wondered how I had gone wrong.  One man walked up to me and told me in front of everyone... You tell your husband I have no empathy for him.  You tell him he pisses me off.  Not one person came up and defended me.  The thing was my husband was so very ill.  He had lost 165 pounds and was literally at deaths door.  This man knew this and still he said what he did. 

I just silently and calmly collected my things, took my two daughters hands and walked out, never to return.  I could not feel God among those people anymore.  So that was the day I walked away from the church and organized religion and walked calmly toward God Almighty.  It was a huge step out in faith for me. 
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I was horrified when I sat down and watched the news last night.. and really got a eye opening look at what is happening with the flooding in your country.  The 12 years old boy that gave his life to save his little brothers.  I wept and wept.  I am so saddened by the massive suffering that is happening all around you. 

Now is the time for you to widen your heart and let your God given love flow to all those you can Rainbow.  I have learned that God's Church does not dwell within a man-made building... the sky is the roof and we are always in God's Church no matter where our feet are and no matter what we are doing. 

We ~ letting our light shine ~ especially all the brighter when hard times come is of the greatest importance.  It helps those who are afraid and in the dark to find their way, to absorb comfort and feel the God given love be  a balm that heals.

Be strong and endure.  Let your light shine and warm those around you.

8 comments:

  1. "You tell your husband I have no empathy for him."

    MY COMMENT - Typical WCG judgmental self righteous response.

    Richard

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  2. wow...this the time you apply one of the Four Agreements it behooves us to make, about "Never take anything personally." It is not about you, it is about them. Not easy at times, but seems true

    The Four Agreements are:

    1. Be Impeccable with your Word: Speak with integrity. Say only what you mean. Avoid using the Word to speak against yourself or to gossip about others. Use the power of your Word in the direction of truth and love.

    2. Don’t Take Anything Personally
    Nothing others do is because of you. What others say and do is a projection of their own reality, their own dream. When you are immune to the opinions and actions of others, you won’t be the victim of needless suffering.

    3. Don’t Make Assumptions
    Find the courage to ask questions and to express what you really want. Communicate with others as clearly as you can to avoid misunderstandings, sadness and drama. With just this one agreement, you can completely transform your life.

    4. Always Do Your Best
    Your best is going to change from moment to moment; it will be different when you are healthy as opposed to sick. Under any circumstance, simply do your best, and you will avoid self-judgment, self-abuse, and regret.

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  3. The membership often mimicked the attitudes of the ministry.

    One of the key ministers leading the new COGawa pastored our church for a few years. I often sat there in shock and disbelief, listening to his sermons. He loved history, frequently citing incidents of unspeakable suffering and horror, casually dismissing them with the words, "So what, brethren, so what!" Is it any wonder that the indifference and lack of empathy sifted down to the membership in how they treated one another?

    Another key minister of the new COGawa built several sermons around a tiny little bit of skin cancer that his doctor found. Somehow, he seemed to think we would all pray and fast for his recovery. We had a good laugh at that one. Members with serious medical and/or personal tragedies, and never so much as a mention or few words of sincerity from the ministry. But give his removable cancer, suddenly his trial dwarfed any others within the congregation.

    There is far more love and compassion in the world the ministry so frequently condemned and ruthlessly judged.

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  4. Hi Dennis,

    The four agreements you wrote about are excellent and will try to incorporate them into my life. Maybe before I turn up my toes there might be some progress made.

    Mary Veronica

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  5. This posting gives much support to something which I've come to believe. There are reasons why no part of the former Armstrong movement has been blessed. The splinters have not been blessed because of their rebellion and the fact that they continue to embrace erroneous doctrines, and the main body (now called GCI) became a curse to their own ministry because of the way in which they handled the corrections and changes. Whether there ever was a utopian situation where officials actually cared about the best long-term interests of individual members is up for debate. However, general practices in all of the groups today indicate a lack of sincere care for members or their well-being, whether it involves making up for past wrongs, or putting the flock above one's desire to create new splinters. The movement currently exudes ego, lust for power, and is informed more by accepted business practices than genuine Christianity.

    The only real alternatives for people once part of Armstrongism would be to establish a private, personal relationship with Father God and Jesus Christ, and to worship with a group which practices Christian ideals and is being blessed by growth and through their impact on the surrounding community. That those criteria ever existed in the Armstrong churches is one of our modern day religious myths. WCG was a "seeker" church, one that was built by drawing in people who were not well educated in the Bible, the tenets of Christianity, history, or science.

    BB

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  6. "The moto when I was a member was "We are family". This had deep meaning. When Mr. Armstrong was alive it actually meant something."

    No, this motto was brought into play after Armstrong died; I quite clearly remember one of the first Feast films, either after he passed away, or just prior to the changes, was titled "We are family".

    Prior to that, Herbie may have talked about being IN "the God family", but "we are family"? Never heard it, in my neck of the woods, until Senior started trying to hold the crumbling Empire together.

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  7. PH Wrote:

    "No, this motto was brought into play after Armstrong died; I quite clearly remember one of the first Feast films, either after he passed away, or just prior to the changes, was titled "We are family"."

    Not only that, but the WCG in Pasadena produced a pictorial album of Auditorium members called 'We Are Family". There was also a book published with the ministry's pictures in it, and it was called eh same thing.

    Armstrongism was only a 'family' as long as you toed the line. Make a mistake or not follow the rules and you were treated like dirt by your former lovign family.

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