One of the favorite sayings in Armstrongism thrown at those who have left it is, "Get over it!" Here is an article written by an exArmstrongite on the
Unfundamentalist Christian blog about this slur.
Every so often someone joins our group, and is dismayed by the raw
and painful emotions they encounter there. They don’t quite understand
the anger and the pain displayed, often by people who escaped the cult
years ago. And so they usually end up offering the same advice: Get over
it.
I really hate that platitude.
How does one “get over” discovering that everything they’d been
taught about God and religion since childhood was a lie? How does one
get over needless deaths or prolonged illnesses brought on by church
teachings? How does one get over being inculcated into a “religion” that
fostered rape, child abuse, spousal abuse, forced divorce, abandonment
of every sort—that created and insisted upon poverty?
How does one “get over” losing family members who will no longer have
anything to do with you, because you walked away from “God’s True
Church”?
How does one “get over” all the things, and all the ways, that have
nearly broken us, when patching and sewing back together all the cracks,
rends, and damage done to us is such an agonizingly slow process?
While it is true that time can soften the memories and ease the pain
of past traumas, “getting over it” is an impossibility. Life-altering
events forever change us—even positive ones. But it seems to be the
negative events that we have such a hard time with. Maybe it’s because
we suppress the emotions they bring up in us, and don’t share our
stories, because we’ve encountered too many “get over it” responses.
Maybe it’s because our culture and our churches tell us that we must
forgive, must be strong, must move on, must stop “living in the past.”
Read the story here:
Getting Over "Get Over It" on the
Unfundamentalist Christians web site.
