The apostle is getting into proper sexual relationships today for a true biblical Christian who is a part of the remnant Church of God.
So much of this seems to be his desire that he wished he had accomplished in his previous marriage. It all sounds like a hurting and wanting man who wishes he had done some things differently.
Malm was not impressed by Herb Armstrong's books on sex. Well, for that matter, most of the church could have cared less too. Those books were all written by an angry man who was pissed his wife was not putting out as he wished she was. It seems Loma was frigid towards him most of the time. Perhaps Loma was a wiser woman that we all thought!
Malm has this to say about Herb's books and the prevailing attitude towards sex by many of the splinter cult leaders:
The Armstrong WCG published two books on sex and marriage; both of them were filled with error and have produced great unhappiness, and often deep feelings of guilt.
There are also leaders of some groups who exceed God’s law and seek to dictate the sexual activities of their members beyond what God has commanded; substituting their personal hangups for God’s word.
Brethren, stick to the Bible and don’t let such men send you on guilt trips when no scriptural guilt is involved. If anyone pronounces anything as sin; insist that they provide scriptural proof texts.
These books and the general attitude towards sex in the church have also produced a backlash leading to much fornication and adultery in the COG Groups. I can tell you, based on my correspondence, that there are very many such cases.
Apparently COG members are bunch of horny bunnies who can't stop having sex and who DARE to come and worship God on the Sabbath.
Brethren, homosexuality, fornication and adultery and our many other sins have separated us from our God; and we dare to appear before him unrepentant on Sabbath and Holy Day, thinking that we are acceptable to God?The apostle also wants you to known that you can be a fornicator and adulterer when you love your hobbies, cars and job more than our spouse.
In the eight and one half years that I attended WCG services; I never heard a sermon on chastity or basic morality! Not once!
When I arrived in Vancouver from Ottawa, I was shocked at the amount of open fornictaion going on, with even some reprobates bragging that they attended because church girls were easy. A fact that the Armstong’s and certain other elders can attest to.
Today in the COG as in the world, there are vast numbers of emotional and spiritual adulterers. If we love father or mother, sister or brother; more than we love our spouse we are committing adultery in an emotional sense, Mat 10:37. If we love friends or job, hobbies, clothes or cars and any other toys, more than we love our spouse: we are committing emotional adultery.Menstruating wives are off limits even for seven days afterwards. I imagine if Malm had his way the women in his cult would need to be using menstruating huts set apart from the rest of the house as one COG leader years ago had proposed.
Anal sex is not permitted in Malmism:
For those into bondage you had better look for other delights to play in:
Anal sex is not godly or lawful, because it breaks the basic principle of love for our spouse, and not doing physical or mental damage.
The more obvious evils like sado masochism and bondage are also forbidden and should not even enter the mind of a person who has God’s spirit, for the spirit would not endure such depraved thinking.
Now to my favorite point from his article: Sabbath sex! Hot damn! Oh, wait.....
Sex on Sabbath or Holy Days. If a couple is burning, they should have a good session before Sabbath and then wait until after. I do not say that Sabbath sex is wrong; Adam and Eve were created on the sixth day! I only say that if passion can be satisfied before Sabbath that might be a good idea .
So all those burning hot hunks of man flesh chasing after nubile young women had better get their delight in before the sun goes down. Life's tough in Malmland.
How dare COG members have weddings before the Sabbath or even on the Sabbath and Holy Days because it eventually leads to one thing: SEX ON THE SABBATH! Oh Nooooooooes!
Then the apostle adds this, which I am sure Meredith and others will not appreciate. The Church has always made it it's businesses of being in the bedroom too.
Beyond these things; the marriage bed is undefiled and whatever a married couple do for and with each other, is totally between them and is totally acceptable. There is NO commandment or principle prohibiting vaginal, manual or oral sex between married spouses in the Bible.
No one has the right to force his extra-biblical positions about sex on married couples. That is a great sin for it is adding to God’s law, and is commanding what God has NOT commanded.
No couple meed deprive themselves of the blessings of pleasing their spouses, just because some gentleman has decided for them what he thinks they should be doing or not doing. What any couple does for each other in their marriage, is NOBUDDY else’s business.
E) There is only one principle more to guide any sexual activity.
Never, never, ever; demand or attempt to force a mate to do what they are personally uncomfortable with. But if both are willing, then enjoy to the full what God has made for humanity.
Tomorrow I will conclude with more information and some tips.
Oh goodie! Sex tips from the apostle! I can't wait!