More wisdom for God's greatest messenger to women, James Malm:
Do not ask for money after he has just told you that the car broke down and he can’t afford to repair it! You husbands must also learn that your wives have their problems and wisdom requires that an appropriate time be found to approach your wives.
If a man offends his wife and she seeks symphathy (sic) wioth (sic) her mother and the two of them build the matter up and commiserates about what a bad husband you are; after which a friend is told a one sided and inflated version and they tell another with their take on it, who tells another; while you have absolutely no idea of what is going on, until someone comes up to you and calls you names and says that you do not deserve a wife. Is that right? Is that fair? Is that love?
In the case of beatings or similar physical abuse: LEAVE IMMEDIATELY and then go to your elder. What if he is biased, or uninterested, or not helpful? Tell him that you want to seek further help from higher up and then do so. Do not go over his head without informing him. (i.e. don't call the police)
Any woman who over spends and runs up credit bills is being selfish and not considering the overall welfare of the family. [maybe she is just seeking attention?] resolve to spend more time with her and bond mor (sic) completely with her! Over shopping is usually a means of filling an empty void in lives, filling the basket or home is often an unconscious attempt to fill a life with meaning. Don’t divorce a wife because she is a profligate shopper;
