I'd like an answer to a question posed me, in the absolute caldron of personal pain, about just why the death and sacrifice of Jesus was the ultimate and incredible sacrifice it was said to be and of which we are reminded at this time every year?
She was a client in my therapeutic massage practice and within the first minute of the session, she started to sob. This can happen in my work when people stressed to the max finally relax a bit, feel safe and experience safe touch.
I simply asked her if she was ok as it is not my place to rush in and immediately try and "fix" something during a session. She said that she was not ok and could she talk with me. Of course shared that her only teenage daughter had committed suicide. Hmmm, nothing worse and I can't imagine a worse pain parenting.
I asked her if she was getting professional help with those who are qualified professionally to help with such things. She said she was and then I asked if she attended church and was the church helpful. She said she did and "NO, they are of no help."
I asked her if they told her that God won't give you more than you bear and she said "YES".
I asked her if she could bear this and she said "NO"
I asked her if they told her that her daughter was far better off now with Jesus? She said "YES"
I asked if she felt that was true and she said "NO, I want her home."
I asked if they told her she would be in her thoughts and prayers and did that help? "YES and NO that did not help."
Finally I asked if her pastor was encouraging to her and she started to shake under my hands.
What did he say?" She told me "He said that God understood because lost his only child as well." (We might even say by suicide when you consider that overturning the tables of the Temple during Passover where Romans were already guarding against insurrection was suicidal for any Jew in those days.)
What did you say?
She said she screamed at him "NO!!!! In THAT story, Jesus knew he was going to return better than ever in only three days! In THAT story, God knew that he would bring his lost son back in just three days! My daughter is DEAD. If I thought she was going to die on a Friday and return on a Sunday, better than ever, I'd be getting the party ready. But my daughter is DEAD! Shouldn't a "sacrifice" stay dead? As far as I am concerned, the death of Jesus was merely a WEEKEND INCONVENIENCE! It's not real and certainly not the worst or most amazing sacrifice ever. My daughter is still dead!"
Realizing his mistaken analogy, the Pastor apologized.
Whoa...I"m not easily taken back by theological issues, but on this day at this moment I learned that questions born out of absolute disaster and grief can leave one with nothing to say. It was one of the most profound moments in my theological thinking in my life. "Shouldn't a sacrifice STAY DEAD?" has stuck in my mind ever since. "THAT Story is merely a weekend inconvenience to both Jesus and God."
We have all been told that the sacrifice of Jesus was the most and worst kind of death, and thus redemptive, that any man has ever gone through. Misusing "He was scarred above any man" misleads us. Of course this is not true. Many human beings have undergone physical deaths in far worse ways and over far longer periods of time. Jesus spent a mere 6 hours on a cross, so goes the story, and got a heroes burial. In real life, crucifixions take days. No one gives you a drink and no one gives you a burial fit for king. You rot on the cross and when the parts fall off, you are eaten by dogs. That is the purpose of Roman Crucifixion. It is designed to instill fear.
" The Roman historian Josephus wrote in Antiquities 13:14:2 that in 88 BCE, the Hasmonean king, Alexander Jannaeus (in office 103-76 BCE), ordered the crucifixion of 800 Pharisees. "As he was feasting with his concubines, in the sight of all the city, he ordered about eight hundred of them to be crucified; and while they were living, he ordered the throats of their children and wives to be cut "
Let's see you beat that!
Up to this point on of my more interesting theological questions based on real life experiences and mores was when a teen in Kentucky asked me, "Mr. Diehl, who was Mary married to when she had Jesus?" I knew where this was going. I am not stupid so I told him that was a great question. It was. I told him that Mary was not married and in the story God is the father of Jesus of course. He agreed and then asked me if that was not fornication on God's part with an under age girl? I said "That's a good question. Keep thinking those things through!" What else could I say? lol.
So the questions are:
In what way was the death of Jesus the worst of deaths and was he really scarred above all men ever?
Why was the death of Jesus really not just a weekend inconvenience, almost like a Passion Play that always has a great ending?
Shouldn't a sacrifice stay dead? Every Old Testament "type" of a sacrifice, of which Jesus was the ultimate point of it all stayed dead. How can coming back in merely three days better than ever be a sacrifice on the part of either Jesus or God.
God did not lose his son the way my client lost her daughter.
Her daughter is still dead and there was no party for her coming back shortly better than ever.
You tell me and believe me when I say my question to you, just as hers to me is deeply sincere and not meant to offend.