What I would like to ask, and 
    sincerely so, is "In what way is Jesus death a real death and in what way 
    did God give his son?"
I know our initial reaction is "on 
    the cross" or "he turned his back on Jesus and abandoned him at death," or 
    "Jesus gave his life for us..."  etc.  But in what way? From my 
    perspective, it was not in anyway I can identify with as a human and the 
    "loss" God suffered is not like any loss I have seen in the faces of parents 
    who lost real children in death.
My personal problem with the 
    concept is that from all accounts, well most, Jesus knew he would 
    die but also that he would return better than ever in a mere three days 
    and not in the flesh, but back at the right hand of God.  In what way 
    is that a sacrifice?  Every sacrifice that died in the entire Bible 
    stayed dead.  Jesus merely appears as a sacrifice but in a way that is 
    not really like all the so called '"types."  Jesus death was not like 
    human death.  It was almost like a play that has a really good ending 
    once we get to the end.  It seems more like going through the motions 
    but not really the emotions.
Now granted, it is no fun to die at 
    a young age, but hundreds of thousands and millions have done it before and 
    since Jesus.  But they are all dead and gone.  I can't imagine any 
    grief lasting long if the families and friends of those who have died would 
    have had to wait a mere three days to get them back better than ever. I 
    can't even imagine any of those who died being all that upset if the knew, 
    as Jesus and God evidently did that they would be back shortly better than 
    ever.  That's not dying.  That's stepping out for a bit and coming 
    right back.  That is not what humans call death nor parents who have 
    lost a child, a tragedy that eats their soul up for the rest of their lives. 
God the Father knew, evidently, 
    what his plan was and could bring his "only begotten son that he gave  
    back quickly.  I can't do that.  No parent of any children I have 
    buried can do that .  How can this be said to be the most amazing 
    parental sacrifice in the history of the world?  I can see if  the 
    figure of Jesus STAYED DEAD and was not himself ever to be part of the 
    coming Kingdom.  Now that would be a sacrifice on the part of both 
    Jesus and God the Father.  But this mere "weekend inconvenience," seems 
    to fall far short of that?  I ask sincerely for an 
    answer.
In what way would God have agonized 
    over Jesus death if it was merely a short weekend event from which God would 
    easily recover the life of his son?
In what way is this the most 
    amazing sacrifice of all time?  (Thousands of humans have been 
    crucified, skinned alive , boiled alive and burned to death which would seem 
    far more hideous than any six hour death on a cross.)  I have my doubts 
    about Jesus being "marred above any other," as well but will leave that for 
    another time. Death on the cross is generally a days long event where no 
    burial is afforded the criminal and the body is left to fall off the cross 
    to be eaten by dogs.  Jesus had the burial of a King with little of the 
    humiliation that would normally accompany such events.  I'm sure many 
    would have said in his day that "Jesus got off easy. He died really 
    quickly."  
I have recalled how this question 
    came to me when a client told me she lost her only child in an 
    accident.  After telling me how little help her church had been trying 
    to encourage her with, "God won't give you more than you can bare," "at 
    least you have other children," (She didn't) or "At least you will see her 
    again in heaven," the Pastor himself made the mistake of his theological 
    career.  He told her that "well, God lost his only child too."  
"Uh oh.." I remember 
    thinking.  He sure stepped into that.  I asked what she said and 
    she assured me that she screamed "NO!" at the minister and then said,  
    "Jesus seems to have known he would die and come back in three days. God 
    knew He was going to resurrect him in a mere three days better than 
    ever.  My daughter is still dead!  A real sacrifice should stay 
    dead.  Jesus death was merely a weekend inconvenience for both Jesus 
    and His Father."
Ugh....I just listened and thought 
    that she , in her grief and clarity, had hit on something so deeply 
    disturbing to me that I later wrote about it.  I asked what the 
    minister said and she said he just looked at her and said NOTHING.  
    Probably the best think he could have done under the 
    circumstances.
It is a sincere observation and it 
    has raised a deeply troubling but sincere question in myself since 
    then.  
So in sincerity I ask,  In 
    what way did God so love the world that he gave his only begotten 
    son....?  How was it the most amazing sacrifice of all time?  
    Should not a real sacrifice stay dead?  And why would Jesus actual 
    death which quickly was remedied by a better than ever resurrection be 
    considered some kind of substitution for ours?