One of the worst legacies of Armstrongism and particularly the Philadelphia Church of God cult mentality is the turmoil it created/creates in the family structure. For a group that claims to be all about family and their potential to be part of the "god" family, they sure can't act like godly family oriented creatures here on earth.
Once a member bought into the system and was fully "converted" they were expected to follow a certain set of rules kept hidden from potential and newer members. Since they were not "converted" and were part of an exclusive highly select few in the entire world, they were expected to keep themselves unspotted by the world around them. This includes avoiding unconverted worldly/pagan family members. God forbid if you spent a Christmas afternoon eating a nice dinner with family members, not of the church. Can there be a greater sin than that?
Gerald Flurry sadly has taken this a step further and actually forbade his members from association with former members and family members outside the cult. Whether it be your spouse, brother/sisters, mother/father, cousins, and friends, you are expected to cut them off.
It is amazing to watch how godless so many of these splinter cults of Armstrongism have degenerated into and yet they think they are God's highly chosen few.
This sad story is from Exit and Support Network
November 28, 2023
My brother and I had a good relationship and spent time together on and off with our families back in the 90’s until he married a woman who grew up in WCG. After then everything changed between us. She basically put up strong boundaries as to when and how I could visit my brother, and we were never allowed to hang out unless she supervised over dinner at their house.
Then he stopped coming to birthday parties, no Christmas either, forget Easter while you’re at it. And he was no longer available on the phone while they had dinner. Forgot completely about reaching him from Friday to Sunday indefinitely, but then they would set a date that worked great for them and would invite me over for dinner.
Dinner always felt like pressure to practice perfect table manners or I would be frowned on. She actually told my mom to keep her elbows off the table. I could go on and on about all of the control tactics that woman played over the years but what’s the point? Now at last she’s got him moving to Oklahoma to join the big compound in Edmond, and my brother is gone for good, thanks to her and PCG.
All I can do is accept all of this and hope and pray for the Lord to open his spiritual eyes.
Thanks for letting me vent. –[name withheld]