Its no wonder the women in the Philadelphia Church of God look like such sad sacks in church photo's. They seem sapped of joy. I guess sit is all because they have become "hard." It seems that the women in the PCG can never get a break. They are blamed for everything.
Joel Hilliker claims that the single women of the PCG have become "hard" because they have no men to protect them. As a result, Satan sends worldly men from the world to woo them over to the dark side where they sink into sexual promiscuity and might even leave the church.
One single woman said, “We women with no men get hard because we aren’t being protected by anyone.” That is usually what happens when a woman has no protector: She starts to protect herself—and she becomes hard. Then some single men respond by saying, I’m not interested in her because she’s too hard! They simply write her off, without feeling any sense of obligation or responsibility toward her. Yet they may well be part of the reason she has had to harden and protect herself!
These women occasionally need a man’s help. This woman said she really appreciates one marriedman’s effort to look after single women as sisters and doing maintenance or yard work for them.
Single women: and not to become hard! Look to God as your Protector—and even to the men in the Church where possible. Be close to your minister. As God’s representative, he fights to protect the flock. Don’t harden yourself! Exercise faith and patience.
Single men: Be a toward the single women in God’s Family! This isn’t something you can wait to do until after you marry. Do this in your dating. Care for and look after the single women. Look for opportunities to step up and take care of them. Every time you do so, you make God’s women feel more secure—and you strike a blow at your selfish nature.
And realize this: When the women get no dates from the men in the Church, Satan notices—and often begins to come after them with men from the world. Those women become lonely and more vulnerable to that kind of temptation. You can protect your sisters from that by helping them to know that they are very cherished members of God’s Family!