There is an interesting conversation going on in a COG related Facebook page right now over how the church felt the need to control all aspects of the members lives. The above quote is from Leaving the Fold by Marlene Winell
Being enveloped by a church that seeks to control every aspect of a members life leads to a false sense of security. A person meets the warm approval of family members and friends and the church looks upon you favorable, if it is as nothing more than a money making entity. But dare to step outside that cocoon and the world quickly changes. Even though the person who has left is healthier, mentally, spiritually and physically, there is still the loss of approval that sometimes creeps in.
An excerpt from the book states:
There's nothing inherently wrong with meeting human needs. However, in practice these needs are exaggerated and used to frighten potential converts into joining and to preserve existing membership. In fundamentalism, the dangers of life -- both now and in the here after -- are emphasised. Incredible threats and promises are made for heaven, hell and miracles here on Earth. The result is that people are disempowered by this approach to having their needs met. Since the source of all the benefits offered is external, requiring dependence on God and the church, internal resources atrophy. This process degrades the self and becomes a serious threat to human well-being.